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Be Careful Who You Listen To

Whenever you do something, in general, people are going to have an opinion about it.

Good or bad, spiteful or benevolent – it is important to realize that it is just that: an opinion.

You are totally free to take it or leave it.

Having said that, it can be hard when someone you trust or respect is giving you advice concerning a goal of yours that is conflicting with your current understanding of the situation.

This is especially true concerning authority figures in your life – parents, boss or friends are primary suspects here.

In these circumstances, I have found that there are two general questions to ask yourself in order to weigh up whether their advice is worth listening to.

1. Have they successfully accomplished the same goal in their own right?

If you want to be a stockbroker, there’s no point listening to trading tips from a butcher; and if you want to build a business, there’s no point listening to someone who’s been an employee their entire life.

Everyone is full of ideas and opinions, but in general, the advice of someone who has actually done what you want to do is an order of magnitude more important than the same from someone who hasn’t.

For example, when I started my first online business, everyone was full of ‘advice’ about things that I ‘should be doing’ – however, not one of these people had ever even run a website, let alone operate a business.

The reality was that they lacked the contextual framework surrounding how these business actually operate, and as a result, their advice was ill-fitting.

Had I had followed their advice, I would have failed miserably.

Instead, I sought out the advice online from people who had actually accomplished what I wanted – an online passive income – and done so recently.

The reason i say recently, is because industries change over time. So be careful listening to advice from someone who may be out of touch with the current state of the environment within which you are operating.

NOTE: don’t think that when you’re successful the advice stops. To this day, my parents will still willing tell me what I should be doing with my business to increase sales.

2. Do they live the life you want to live?

If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got – someone

You should always weigh up peoples advice against the life they live.

Advice generally comes in one of two forms:

  1. The “I know best, listen to me”; or
  2. The “I did that and it was the worst mistake of my life, don’t do it”.

For the first, simply recognize that if you listened to every single piece of advice they had, you’d end up with a life exactly like theirs.

If that’s what you want, then listen to them – if not, don’t.

For the second, you must once again refer to the first rule – have they successfully done what you want to do?

If they have – listen to them. If they haven’t, then clearly some part of the equation was missing for them to cause them to fail. In this case, do your own evaluation surrounding the situation, or seek out advice from those who have accomplished it successfully.

I hope this helps,

DM.